David kites and Rocco plays fútbol

I’m fighting with WordPress a little. That’s why I haven’t posted in awhile.

Eric’s cousin David was in town from February 8-12. It took us about 2 minutes to get him to the fish market for an afternoon snack of ceviche for Eric, ceviche and patacones for me, and a whole fried fish with yuca for Dave. The boys made me walk through the inside of the fish market for the first time ever, in flip-flops. Ugh. Fishy water – at least I choose to call it water – all over the floor, carcasses strewn across tables and scales, goodness knows what else b/c I just tried to focus on keeping my head down and holding my breath. Yuck. Luckily patacones are pretty good at lifting my spirits and erasing bad thoughts from my memory.

We showed him the Cinta Costera…

Then we headed to Casco Viejo where we had dinner reservations. We walked around the old part of town to show off the excellent architecture and let David soak up a bit of the culture, as well as some of the touristy bits, then I got in touch with Jessie from my capoeira group. She lives in Casco, and she invited us to visit for a few minutes before dinner! It was great to see her and her mom, Tonette, who was visiting from El Valle de Antón, nearish to where we are staying this time around. Tonette and David, both from the Silver Spring, MD area, talked about….terrapins and crabs, I imagine, while I had my first chance to catch up with Jessie since we moved back to Raleigh last April. And of course we had to take advantage of her apartment’s views!

We had dinner at a new place (to us) that was right on the beach. I had made reservations, but you might be able to tell that we were almost the only people there. We then hit the grocery store and headed back to our rental house in Punta Chame.

The next morning, we headed out to the beach for David’s first kiteboarding lesson with Nino! Eric was excited for his cousin to take an interest in his new sport. I enjoyed bonding with Rocco.

 

 

I had warned David weeks in advance that he would be in town during the Carolina/Dook game, and I laid out for him exactly what that meant in my house. An excerpt from my email to him on January 19th: “just realized that the UNC/Dook game is Feb. 9th. A couple things: I get hateful on these days. I do NOT tolerate teasing or any pro-Dook talk in my house. I will have a UNC shirt for you to put on and, barring any moral reasons why you cannot wear it (appropriate reason being that you are a hardcore MD fan and you have always hated UNC – which I don’t think is the case), I must insist that you wear it and either A) watch the game quietly with me, B) cheer for UNC and hate on Dook, or C) get out of the house for the evening. I’m fine with any of those.”

For those of you who don’t know David, he’s not exactly the go-with-the-flow, I’ll-do-my-thing-and-you-do-yours kinda guy. He likes to pick at people. He enjoys debating. He’s my worst enemy on game days. Becca, you would kick him out of your house. And folks, that’s not to say anything bad about David or about Becca. David just did not have the privilege to grow up a Tar Heel fan, so he doesn’t know any better. Becca is my college basketball soulmate and, like me, she requires very specific etiquette out of fellow game-watchers. This is why Becca and I generally prefer to watch games together at one of our houses with no one else around. It’s better for everyone this way.

Anyway, David was very respectful considering his complete lack of understanding of the passion I feel for my Heels. Thanks, David. And that’s all I want to say about that game.

When David and Eric are together, they play board games. Prior to David’s arrival, I sent the following Onion article around to the boys, plus Eric’s brother, sister-in-law, and cousin (David’s sister, Kristin): “SCHENECTADY, NY—Repeatedly seeking to ease his friends’ growing skepticism and disinterest, local man Joel Mayhew peppered his explanation of the rules of the board game Pandemic with reassurances that it will be fun, sources confirmed Friday.”

  1. Eric had been telling me for a few weeks that his new game was going to be fun, and even more important that that, it would be short.
  2. David brought Pandemic after seeing my email. I instituted mandatory drinking rules promptly after the boys made my participation unnecessary by strategizing together and deciding what my moves should be on my behalf, then getting disappointed when I wasn’t invested in the game. The night got a little better after that.

On Saturday, we drove to El Valle de Antón, where we have taken many visitors. This time, however, we did something new. We hiked up La India Dormida, the Sleeping Indian, a series of mountains that together supposedly look like a woman lying down and sleeping. I’ve never really seen it, but whatever. It was a decent hike with steep slippery hills and giant boulders. I made it about 7 minutes in before I rolled my ankle. Not badly though, just enough to look silly.

We were rewarded at the top with incredible views and REALLY strong wind.

 

That night, we went out to the beach for David’s last Panamanian sunset.

And as a bonus, we got to see Rocco playing fútbol with some of the folks around Machete. He doesn’t often move fast, but he’s hilarious when he does! They tell me the death rattle-type breathing patterns are normal for a winded bulldog…

The following morning, we set off to take David to the Canal, and then on to the airport. As we drove, we passed a few cars that each flashed their lights at us. Eric slowed down, wondering what kind of hazard we might come across. All of a sudden we turned a corner and saw this!

You know, just a bunch of cows out for a morning jog! Oh Panama! You always deliver when we have guests!

 

 

Back in Raleigh!

We’re back in Raleigh!  We’re currently living back in our old house downtown, but in one of the bottom apartments instead of in the whole upstairs like we used to.  We’re doing the minimalist thing while we search for a house, so it ain’t pretty, but we’re comfortable.  And Addie has finally calmed down and settled in, which is important.  The poor dog has gone from this house to Asheville (with my parents) to Panamá to Asheville to this house (but the wrong part of it – she keeps trying to go upstairs where she belongs) all in the past 16 months or so.  She’s a little confused.

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She obviously suffered at the hands of my parents.

It’s been exciting to reconnect with friends and family over the past week.  We were able to hang out with Eric’s parents, brother and sister-in-law, and their kids on our first day back.  My parents came the second day.  We visited my sister and her family on the third day.  During the following days, Eric reconnected with his frisbee group, I visited my dear friend Becca and her 10 month old, we had sushi with DRay and Sarah – who are soon to be married! – and spent another evening reconnecting with my sister’s family.  It’s been a great week.

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Our 10 month old niece, Summer.

It’s been funny to see what cultural differences have made an impression on us.  I think the biggest thing I’ve noticed is that the grocery carts here are HUGE!  Panamá had two choices – a smaller and a larger size – but even the larger is no match for Kroger or Target’s carts.

 

And of course the driving has been different.  Although driving in Panamá is pretty intense, Eric and I both developed a deep appreciation for the mindset of drivers there.  Nearly every Panamanian driver pays close attention to the road at all times…because you kinda have to.  People don’t seem to get as angry with each other because they just expect that other folks are going to do crazy things – turn left from the right lane, ignore stop signs, turn a 2 lane road into a 3 lane, turn out in front of you, etc.  When you’re prepared for that, not only do you not get mad when it happens, but you start to do it too…which can be kinda fun.  I’ll miss it, for sure.  I’m a lot calmer and more attentive driver in Panamá.  Working on that one…

 

Another thing is my feeling of security.  I VERY rarely felt unsafe in Panamá.  I was cautious, of course, but I can’t remember a specific time when I felt nervous or worried about my safety.  Oddly, I think I felt more alike most of the folks there.  Or maybe I just didn’t notice the differences among others there because everyone was different from me…language, culture, color, everything.  Here, it’s easier to pick out the folks that I am alike and distinguish them from the folks that are different from me in smaller ways.  We share a language and a geographical background, so I focus in on the smaller details.  I’m not sure.  It’s a strange feeling and something I’m trying to work through as I’m writing this.  It makes me remember Panamá fondly, but also makes me realize how comfortable it is to be back.  I’m not sure if any of that makes sense…

Anyway, a couple of notes about the end of our Panamá adventure.

We went to our last Panamá fútbol game vs. Haiti…and WON!  We had lost the previous two games that we attended, so it was really cool to win our last one.  We got covered with celebratory flying beer, and loved it.  I also managed to get us two free tshirts from the group next to us, which came with an invitation to be in their group photos.  Fun!

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During our last weekend, a good part of the capoeira group gathered at our friend Auri’s place for a going away party.  Auri made arepas and empanadas – amazing – and Eric was happy.  Jessie also gave me a mug that says “Fula,” which is Panamanian for blondie.  Very sweet.

 

The next day, Eric and I took Lourdes just outside the city to her mom’s house so we could pick up her daughter Cari.  On the way back to the city, Lourdes began to feel really sick and had a lot of abdominal pain.  She insisted that she would be okay and just needed to go home, so we dropped her off, bought a few groceries for her, delivered them to her house, then left with a promise to check on her the next day.  Early the following morning, she texted me to let me know that she was heading to the emergency room because she had been sick all night and was still in a lot of pain.  I rushed out of the house, picked her up at work, and took her to the ER.  Luckily, she turned out to be fine – it was a gastrointestinal thing that they said could be cured by laying off the greasy food.  Hard to do in Panamá.

 

The night before we left, we tried a restaurant called Donde José in Casco Viejo.  Only 4 small tables plus 4 seats at the bar.  10 courses.  Pure amazingness.  Definitely competed with the Fearrington House Restaurant outside of Chapel Hill, which had previously been my favorite splurge restaurant.  The food was absolutely spectacular.  Interesting combinations, wonderful flavors, very creative.  And beautiful!  Look!

 

After dinner, our sweet friends Lourdes and Mono came over, as well as our British neighbor Elliott from upstairs.  As is always the case with them, we had a great time talking and laughing.  Elliott ended up staying until nearly 1…then left with plans to meet us at 6 am for the sunrise on the roof of our building.

 

5:55 am came and Eric and I actually got out of bed.  We banged on Elliott’s door on the way up…no answer.  We went up to the roof anyway, and it was just gorgeous.  We each made one last climb up to the very tip-top of the building, a place with one skinny wobbly handrail and a tilted inclined walk up to the point.  It’s scary, but the view is worth the climb.

 

Now that we’re back home, I have about a week and a half more before I return to my old job at North Carolina Prisoner Legal Services.  I’ll be doing civil work, which is what I was originally hired to do back in 2011.  It is also exactly what I want to be doing.  I’ll also be serving as our intake attorney, which means working with my dear friend Elizabeth, the paralegal with whom I worked on my big class action case for about 5 years.  I’m very excited.

 

Eric has his office set up at a folding table in the kitchen of our little apartment and seems happy enough for the time being.  His office is just a short walk from here, so he also has the option to actually put on pants and go in, should he chose to do so.  Kidding…he’s actually very good about hopping up, showering, putting on real clothes, and going into work mode at home.

 

Thanks so much for all of your support over the past year and a half.  It’s been an adventure, and we were so glad to have all of you checking in on us and following our story.

 

 

Punta Chame 2 – More Kiteboarding!

First and foremost, my niece Laine turned 6 on February 1.  Happy Birthday Laine!  I was lucky enough to FaceTime with her both before and on her bday.  Here’s what happens when her parents leave us to have a conversation by ourselves:

And here’s one that show just how grown-up she is!  I’ve got to get home to my sweet nieces and nephew soon!  Being away from them has been the hardest part of being here.

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And one more from her birthday:

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Also, Addie turned 10 on Groundhog’s Day!  This is how she celebrated:

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Then Addie went to stay with our housekeeper for a few days.  Sadly, Eric is hooked on kiteboarding so I dutifully accompanied him to a gorgeous, peaceful, breezy beach in the middle of the week.  Again.

Seriously, if you wanna be happy for the rest of your life (yes Mom, I just sang the old song in my head), be in a couple where one of you is a kiteboarder.  Or a surfer.  Or a windsurfer.  Eric’s new hobby is the best thing to happen to me since capoeira.  After testing it out when we were in Punta Chame with Jennifer and Ray, he decided to invest in a package of lessons.  So there we were, back on the same beach two weeks later, only in a cheaper and nicer B&B with better food.  Sorry J-Ray.  We didn’t know.

Just like the last Punta Chame trip, we had a little photo shoot at sunset.

And took a few selfies:

When I was reviewing our photos, I found this.  What’s that right behind me?

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Oh right, it’s a guy flying through the air on his board.  Amazing.  These guys would get 20 feet out of the water and just float for a while.  Beautiful to watch.

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So, now for the interesting stuff.  Eric’s kiteboarding.  This week he had 6 hours of lessons – two hours per day on wednesday, thursday, and friday.  The first day, he got up and actually really boarded for the first time rather than just popping up and falling again.  He was so excited!  The second day, he started getting the hang of getting up, but needed to correct a few things on how he was flying the kite.  Today, on Day Three, he did some serious riding!  He was thrilled, and I couldn’t be more excited for him.  It’s so much fun to see him so into this.  I’m really glad he and Jennifer tried it out and that he went for the extra lessons.  I can see him enjoying this for a long time.  I actually just caught him looking at equipment prices online.  Apparently there’s decent kiting in Kitty Hawk…

One other update, we do not have the Zika virus yet.  We will keep you updated.

No, seriously though, no one we know has gotten it.  There’s an awful lot of hype in the news, but we’re not too worried.  There aren’t many mosquitos during the dry season anyway.